BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
Stephen Covey, Frank Rivers, Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy
Sun Tzu wrote, "If you know yourself and know your opponent
you will be victorious 100 battles out of 100 encounters.' The
civilian comes into a situation not understanding himself or his
opponent, and is assured defeat. Know Thyself. The true warrior
knows his skills, weaknesses, values and priorities. He knows in
advance what is worth fighting for and will never try and figure
that out in the heat of a conflict. This knowledge is not inherited
but must be gained through experience and participation. Knowing
why you behave based on your values and thoughts is the basic step
to self-knowledge. The Chinese have a saying; " It is better
to know the dragons within, than to suffer their affects unconsciously."
Before you can be successful, you must identify what it is you
really want. Many people set goals to be financial successful but
once they are there they realize that their family life is not
a very good one. In goal setting, first identify your true values,
then do long range planning and work backwards to quarterly, monthly,
weekly and daily goals. Know what you want, know what it is going
to cost, and be willing to pay the price.
One thing that all humans want is to be happy. The ideal of happiness
hasn't changed that much in the last few thousand years. The key
to happiness, is this:
"Dedicate yourself to the development of your natural talents
and abilities, by doing what you love to do, and doing it better
and better in the service of a cause that is greater than yourself."
This is a powerful statement and a commitment. Being happy requires
that you define your life in your own terms. Only you can do the
things that will make you happy. Happiness is an inside job.
When happiness becomes a key element in your goal setting and
your personal mission statement, life will become much easier.
Earl Nightingale once said, "Happiness is the progressive
realization of a worthy ideal." You will only feel happy when
you are moving, step by step, toward the accomplishment of a clearly
defined goal. In order to achieve goals, it is important to constantly
evaluate your own strengths and weaknesses. This was clearly understood
by Sun Tzu when he wrote to know yourself and your opponent.
You can never be happy until you know that what you are doing
is making a difference in the world. Here are 7 steps towards happiness:
1. Dream big dreams
If you could be, do or have anything in life and were guaranteed
you would not fail, what would you do? Go for it, don't hold back.
Visualize yourself 5 years in advance and everything worked out
just right, what would it look like? What would make you happy?
Where would you be? Who with?
2. Identify your unique talents and abilities
What makes you special? What do you find easy to do, but others
think is hard? Sometimes, ask others what they think you should
do. Many times they will see unique talents that you have over
3. Resolve to do, what you love to do, and commit to be excellent
It is only when you are growing in something that is important
to you that you feel alive and in touch with your world. Remember
that excellence is not a destination, but a life long journey.
4. Accept 100% responsibility for who and where you are in life.
You are where you are because that is what you have chosen. You
are what you are and where you are because of your past behaviors.
If you want to change the future, then you need to change the behaviors
you are doing today. True maturity begins when you realize that
no one is coming to the rescue, but that you are totally responsible.
5. Be honest with yourself
Refuse to engage in the idea that the laws of cause and effect
will ignore you. You know that every thing that you get will because
of something that you have put in. The biggest mistake is to expect
something for nothing. Success only comes from paying in full,
6. Set clear specific goals
Less than 3% of people have written goals, and everyone else works
for them. Only serious goals are written down. The more you write
down your goals, the clearer they become in your mind and the more
you believe they are attainable. The more they become attainable
in your mind, the more you are willing to overcome the obstacles
that will come in the way.
7. To resolve to persist until you succeed
You must be willing to endure the problems that you are going
to face. Persistence is self-discipline in action. Your persistence
is your belief in yourself and your ability to succeed. The more
you believe in yourself, the higher your self-esteem. Soon you
will develop an unstoppable attitude or Tamashi - indomitable spirit.