Sincerely Accept a Compliment

Dave Kovar's Living Lessons

It is Important to Sincerely Accept a Compliment

As a martial arts instructor, I have had the privilege of working with a lot of students over the years. One of the byproducts of this often getting to hear positive things about our program.

A while back, after a successful belt promotion, I was approached by the grandparents of a newly promoted brown belt. They thanked me profusely, telling me ” this is has been the best thing EVER for our grandson” and they meant it. I thanked them and then quickly changed the subject (sometimes I am uncomfortable with compliments). I sensed something different about their energy and then I realized (fortunately, before it was too late) that I hadn’t fully accepted their compliment. They were giving me a gift, the gift of thanks, and I had only half heartedly accepted it. I quickly turned the conversation back to their grandson, and how much their kind words meant to me. I sincerely thanked them for sharing them with me. I am pretty sure they went away feeling good about the conversation. I know I did.

I have learned this lesson before but sometimes you have to learn the same lesson several times before it sinks in. Going forward, I am really going to try to accept a compliment when it comes my way. It is good for both parties.
How about you?

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Dave Kovar

Dave Kovar is an elite martial artist with black belts in 10 Martial Arts styles. He is recognized worldwide as an innovator of best practices for martial arts school operation. He oversees the operation of eight Kovar’s Satori Academy schools and he founded ProMAC, the Professional Martial Arts College.